Writing

Notes from the counselling room

Plain answers to the questions people bring — written from a long career of sitting with them.

Why trauma lives in the body — and what to do about it

Why understanding what happened to you often doesn't stop the reaction — and what body-based counselling actually involves. A plain explanation from Erene Mitchell.

What is Christian counselling, really?

What Christian counselling is and isn't — how it differs from pastoral care, how faith is brought into the room, and what to ask before you book with anyone.

Panic attacks: what they are and what actually helps

What a panic attack really is and what genuinely helps in the moment — a plain, practical explanation from an experienced counsellor.

What is the difference between a social worker and a psychologist?

The difference between a social worker and a psychologist in South Africa — training, what each does, medical aid claims, and how to choose a counsellor.

Carer burnout: the symptoms, the guilt, and what to do first

Carer burnout symptoms explained by an experienced counsellor — the signs, the guilt trap, practical first steps, and when counselling helps.

How much does counselling cost in the UK?

How much does counselling cost in the UK? An honest look at typical private fees, what drives the price, low-cost routes, and where online counselling at £40 fits in.

How to cope with losing a parent

How to cope with losing a parent — the paperwork, the odd moments grief chooses, becoming the older generation, and when counselling can help.

Seeing a counsellor in another country: how it actually works

Does online counselling work, and can you see a counsellor in another country? The honest practicalities: time zones, dropped calls, privacy at home, and crisis limits.

Grief support group or one-to-one counselling — which do you need?

Grief support groups or one-to-one counselling — which is right for you? An honest comparison from a grief counsellor, including free options in South Africa.

The stages of grief — and why yours may not follow them

The five stages of grief are a useful map, but grief rarely follows them in order. A grief counsellor on what the stages get right, and what actually helps.

My elderly mother is never happy — and I feel awful for minding

My mother is never happy — why a parent turns critical or demanding in later life, why it lands on you, and how to set limits without abandoning her.

Does medical aid cover counselling? A plain South African guide

Does medical aid cover counselling in South Africa? A plain guide to counselling benefits, practice numbers, what to ask your scheme, and what a claimable receipt needs.